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GentleDomme

On-line Sub Rules

The following are a set of rules I have come up with for my on-line subs. I am sharing this because I thought it might be helpful to other Dommes.

My On-line Sub Rules

-The first one is a biggie. You must communicate with me. The lines of communication have to remain open all of the time. If you have a concern or question, come to me about it. If you feel you are not getting what you need from the relationship, tell me about it. Whatever you want to discuss, I am open and ready to listen.
-I need you to be completely open and honest with me about everything. This one I cannot stress enough. This will not work if you are not honest with me about everything.
-You must be exclusive to me. I will not share you with another Domme as long as our relationship is active. You are not allowed to email, chat with, or speak with any other Domme without my permission even if it is just as friends. If for any reason you want to leave the relationship you need to come and talk to me about it. I will not keep you in a relationship you truly don't want to be in.
-You must contact me at least once a day. And keep me in the loop and informed about what is going on in your life. You can contact me by email, or IM, either way.
-You must read my blog and my site at least once a day. If for some reason this is not going to be possible, you need to inform me of this, AHEAD of time.
-You are not allowed to have orgasms without permission. Your penis belongs to me now. Only I have the right to it.
-You will remember that when you are interacting with other people that you are representing me. What you say and do reflects on me.
-You are not allowed to correct me in any way. You may make suggestions and give me ideas, but DO NOT correct me. I am human and make mistakes, and that is okay. I am still in charge and will not allow it.
-Inform me of any schedule change ahead of time. Either by email or IM. In case of an emergency, just inform me as soon as possible and in a humble way. I am not an unreasonable person and will understand if it was a true emergency. Things do happen sometime.
-If you have computer problems, which happens, please remember that your local library has email available  for you. Also neighbors and friends are also good sources. Not knowing my email address is NOT an excuse. You should have it memorized. A quick email to me from the public computer telling me the situation is all I need. DO NOT keep me in the dark and guessing. That is unacceptable.
little_toto

A FAIR CALL MA"AM...!!!!
But I'll admit that every day would be a little too much for me..., as i often lapse into a computer free zone for a day (or so) just for sanity (or to smell the roses)...
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GentleDomme

little_toto wrote:
A FAIR CALL MA"AM...!!!!
But I'll admit that every day would be a little too much for me..., as i often lapse into a computer free zone for a day (or so) just for sanity (or to smell the roses)...
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Ahhhhhhhh, but toto, all I would require is for you to let me know AHEAD of time. I understand getting away sometimes, all of us have to. But I do not understand not letting someone know. As a Domme, I care about my subs, and if one just disappeared for two days, I would be worried sick.

Kat
little_toto

Now i understand Ma'am...
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Guest

This has been helpful to me as I have trouble understanding the basics of how the online relationships work. Thank you for sharing. I do have just one teeny tiny little question if I may? How exactly do you go about maintaining discipline? I am always trying to understand this little part. I have heard about writing lines and things like that. In fact I even ran across this computer program one time called fond of writing. Some way to make sure they write them I guess? But are there other things?
Regards,
Christian
GentleDomme

I get asked this quite a lot actually. And what I get out of an online relationship. Because people can see the benifit for the sub but not for the Domme.

An online relationship requires a lot of imagination. It's different, to be sure but rewarding all the same. Yes, I have assigned written assignments before. They are to send me the results after they finish, and they usually have a time limit also. But there are other things also. Like when I took away brian1's pink board. For anyone else, that wouldn't have been a big deal, but for him it was.

I also test them once in a while. One of there rules is that they are to check my blog daily. So the other day I wrote on my blog that they were to write me an email when they saw it and in the subject line they were to put the word RIBBIT. When I got home, two lovely RIBBITS were waiting for me in my inbox. It was wonderful.

But the most important thing is to get someone that is trustworthy and honest. That is important anytime in a relationship but more so in an online one. I have got to know I can trust them to do as I ask. When you do find that person, or persons in my case, it is really something magical.

Kat
Guest

Wow! Now I understand about that and as well what you get out of it. That is beautiful! Thank you.
Christian
brian1

Glad to oblige, Ms Kat!!!!! "RIBBIT"....lol

brian1
Guest

Haha! Too funny Brian. You do well by your mistress. :)
Christian
GentleDomme

Both of my wonderful subbies took that RIBBIT thing in the spirit that it was intended. Up-beat and light hearted. A playful test. The passed with flying colors. And because of it, made my whole day.


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Kat
Guest

Now may I ask just one other small thing? Was there a reward?
Runs away before he gets hit... lol
Christian
GentleDomme

LOL, yes, they got to make me happy.

Kat
Guest

Now that is a good reward! :)
Christian
songman

Wow!

I'm awed.  (And I'll admit buzzed a bit on red wine). Do you truly exist? I am an honestly searching soul:). My mind is piqued!
MsNaydi

great rules

I hope it is not bad form to bump up an old post, but I had to let you know that this post was very helpful. I have these kinds of rules for my sub, but never formalized them. He does occasionally disappear for a day, and I am worried. That is an issue we are working on. Maybe I need to formalize my requirements for my online sub.
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