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My wife has decided on FLR
 PostPosted: Tue Oct 19, 2010 6:18 pm Reply with quote  
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  Yoda

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Hi everyone

I am new here however have been reading about FLR on this site and a few others. The idea of FLR has been of interest to my wife for a number of years I learned quite recently. She didn't know how to roll it out and didn't know how I would react. We have been married for 21 years so during that time there have been ups and downs. She caught me crossdressing and I found out she was cheating to name a couple.

Anyways my wife decided to try a female led realtionship however there were to be terms as to be expected. I agreed to look after the household chores which include pretty well everything from laundry to cooking. My wife is one of those women that felt if she was going to commit the time that there had to be a reward.

So verbal promises meant nothing to her at all. Shirley said if this was going to work she wanted full control of everything from finances to the bedroom. This was something she felt would scare me off if I wasn't serious about trying this lifestyle. To show good faith I agreed to her terms and signed off on a contract she wrote with a 12 month term. We agreed to spend last Wednesday getting ready to begin the journey so she we went to the bank where I signed over the bank account to her. That was a strange feeling however it felt good once it was done. Our house is paid for so we have a lawyers appointment to draft up an agreement on Thrusday.

Finally on the way home Shirley wanted to stop at a strip mall. There was a uniform shop there which was where she took me. We walked in me being puzzled,  where a sales lady greeted us. My wife said this is my husband so the sales lady took us to the back of the shop. She said to us here is what I thought would be the perfect thing for your husband. I gulped and looked at my wife with a look of what? The sales lady said take these 3 maid uniforms to the dressing room and call me as you try them on. Again I looked at my wife however she firmly told me to get moving as we had other places to go.

I did as she asked since that is what I agreed to do at home when I signed her agreement. Just as I took off my shirt she opened the door and passed me a bra and panties. By this time I was beat red and knew I was in for trouble. There was a knock at the door asking me to show myself. As I opened the door to see who was there I could Shirley and the sales lady smiling. They asked one another what they thought then passed me a pair of white shoes. Here put these on with your next uniform. Again I  hear the knock and I open the door now wearing everything they handed me. They talked about my appearance then passed me a pair of breast forms. Lastly I changed into the last uniform then opened the door.

Talking about feeling humiliated standing there dressed as a maid yet looking like a guy in a dress. Both of the women agreed on the last uniform so my wife said we wil take that one. I was told to remove the dress but leave the bar and panties on then get dressed in my guy clothes. I pleaded to take off the bra or at least the forms. My wife said stop being silly you have your jacket and knowone will see you. Even if they do get used to it.

In all the years we have been together I have never seen my wife so firm. Off we went to a department store to load up on a few other items......yes feminine.

A while later we got home where my wife said ok today ws to be the beginning of a new life for me and for you. First when you are not working I want to see you dressed as my maid..............only. Also when you do come home from work you will go to your room and change into whatever is lying on the bed or your uniform. The plan is that over the next few weeks you will have more uniforms and everything that goes with it.

Shirley explained I had lots of time to talk to her about what I wanted which she has agreed to. At no time did I mention aything I didn't want so being my maid is her wish. She walked me to the spare room which is now my room. The dresser drawers no longer had my male clothes in them but instead panties, bras, pantyhose and a couple of camisoles.

Shirley walked me over to the closet where she showed me a few things she had purchased on one side and my work clothes on the other. I asked where my jeans and casual shirts were hiding. She replied you won't need them while you are being trained. I asked how long the training would take of which she replied oh not too long.

She said alright lets get you changed so I can see if I like what I see. I got dressed wearing the new uniform, bra, panties, pantyhose and shoes. She called me out to the living room where I stood blushing red. Shirley said alright I like it however a few things must be added a few must go. She passed me a wig and a cap to put on. as I stood there she said I like it. Get busy gathering up the laundry and meet downstairs. Off I went then downstairs I go. She walked me through how to use the washer and dryer. While a load of wash was going my wife told me to get out the iron and ironing board. I always hated ironing and only tried it a few tmes. She explained how to work the iron and proceeded to watch me iron what seemed to be everything she owned.

The night went on as I learned to do all the things she did for years. Every so often she asked how I was doing and of course I said fine. She said that's a good maid.

It was around 11:00 pm when she called me to run the bath. I was told to strip down and get in to the tub. Shirley passed me a razor with instructions to remove it all. I looked at her with a confused look. She said I'll do your back when your done. I asked if this was necessary which was then explained a maid has to keep herself silky smooth.

Well that was a few weeks ago now. Every day I come home change then start my chores of which she keeps on the fridge. Some nights she works late so my goal is to have everything done by the time she gets home.

It hasn't been easy making this change for me at all. Sometimes I think she is going to back out of it as she was never fond of me dressing in women's clothes. I asked her one night if me wearing the maid outfit was hard for her to get used to. Her reply was not at all since these are your clothes and we bought them together. When I crossdressed years ago it was without her approval. Now it is her preference as long as she is in control of it.

We talk every night how I am doing both good and bad. Shirley asked if this new lifestyle is meeting my goals. She wanted to know if there was anything she should be doing. Notice it wasn't anything I didn't want her to do. I tried that already and she quickly remined me of the contract I signed.

Shirley works in a law office so she is an expert with writing contracts.  

I was wondering if other wives make their submissive males dress in feminine attire or do they keep them in the nude? My wife never liked the idea of me working in the nude. She said to me you are much more submissive when dressed in your pink maid outfit.

She is right there.......................everytime I get dressed and walk out of my room I feel my spins leave my body. Seeing her firm look as she makes sure I am dressed as she instructed is enough for my heart to sink.

We would love to hear from others who practice this lifestyle.

Thanks for reading
Yoda
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 PostPosted: Tue Oct 19, 2010 8:37 pm Reply with quote  
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  GentleDomme
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Well, quite a change for your marriage, wasn't it?

To answer one of your questions, I would have my sub dressed as a maid over naked. That is just my preference though. I know others that would prefer naked.

Doesn't it feel better not to have to hide your cross dressing anymore? I would think that would be a great relief.

Kat
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 PostPosted: Wed Oct 20, 2010 9:46 am Reply with quote  
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  Yoda

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Hi everyone

Thank you for your reply. Yes it more of a change in my life than ever thought. It is something to read about a lifestyle then even fantacise about it. We both looked at this off and on for a few years. My wife researched it when I wasn't home and I think I did the same. So I guess what I am getting at is no matter how much you read about it, living it is totally different.

This week I am on vacation from my full time job so Shirley thought it would be a good time for me to dress fulltime around the house. Up until now it is at night after work and on one of the weekend days. She thought this week it would be fulltime. In preparation for her plan yes she bought me another uniform and a pair of heels.

Walking on heels is not easy for me. She said don't worry you will get lots of practice.

To answer the question about no longer hiding crossdressing. Yes it feels better not to hide anything from my wife. Over the years that was the only thing I tried to keep to myself. That was until she caught me. The feeling of being caught was far worse than anything I had experienced. For the most part I am a pretty honest person. Being that my wife has always had a domniant side to her I was not sure how she would react at first.

Well she says it is all working out for the better now isn't it. She is right so far so good even though I'm not quite used to being dressed in uniform in front of her. It makes me feel very submissive inside as she watches my every move.

It is funny how you spend so many years with someone in one life and now the tables are completely turned. It is not that I am complaining which would do no good anyways. It is just a totally new feeling when someone else dictates what and when you do things.

If anything I love my wife more now that she has taken charge. It is too bad it took this long to do. Let's see if I say that in 6 months though. That is what she said this morning before leavig for work. Shirley said from her readings that if the FLR lifestyle was any kind of fetish there would end up being times where I woud not want to play the game so to speak. She assured me this is no game and that I would be wise to do everything right to the letter of the contract I signed.

Hearing that made me gulp. I think reading the contract she wrote and being excited to begin this journey I might have not taken it quite as seriously as my wife planned. I know there be be some truth to it after the uniform store event. Now weeks later each day I see Shirley enioying her role more and more. She has joined a gym and goes out with the girls alot more. I am so happy for her to have more time to do the things that she likes to do.

She called me a while ago to say she will be home a bit late as she wants to look at a new car. Normally we would buy a new family car every 3 years so now she said her current car will be mine and she will buy the new one for her. At first I was shocked as we had always replaced my car then my olld one would go to her. Shirley works close to home and felt she just needed wheels so nothing fancy was required. As of this morning she has had a change of heart it seems.

She said before hanging up the phone "Don't worry I'll take you for a ride in it when we go shopping..........he he. Have a nice day honey" With that I went back to cleaning.

Well my break is over so better keep plugging ahead.

I will chat with you all later
Yoda
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 PostPosted: Wed Oct 20, 2010 10:18 am Reply with quote  
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Hi Yoda. Congratulations on your FLR. Will Shirley be joining us?
Christian
 PostPosted: Wed Oct 20, 2010 10:24 am Reply with quote  
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  Yoda

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Hi Christian

Thank you very much. Oh I think at some point Shirley will be here. Maybe she already is since she dosen't tell me everything anymore.

Have a great afternoon.
Yoda
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 PostPosted: Wed Oct 20, 2010 10:36 am Reply with quote  
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Lovely picture! Yeah I know the feeling.
Christian
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Love the car bit. That is really great. She deserves to have the new one.

I agree with Christian, great profile picture.

Kat
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 PostPosted: Wed Oct 20, 2010 12:54 pm Reply with quote  
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  Yoda

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Hi GentleDomme

I thought you might agree with my wife getting the new car. It really is the right thing to do after all she looks after the finances now. One of my tasks now is to think of and present her with a personal license plate. We have always had them however she wants them changed to reflect  something FLR related.

So far I have FLR4Life, BossLady or WUZ HIZ

For mine she suggested Her Maid, She Rules or My Sub

Thanks for all your feedback as we are still learning
Yoda
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 PostPosted: Wed Oct 20, 2010 1:36 pm Reply with quote  
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Hi again

All I can say is OMG, OMG.

I was working away cleaning Shirley's bathroom when I heard "hello". At first I thought it was the TV but then I wasn't watching TV today. By the time I looked out in the hall my mother in law was standing there. I thought I was going to have a stroke, my mother in law? She said "Hi Brenda, could you give me a hand" I replied Brenda? She said well I can't call you Brendon anymore now can I?

She asked me to get a box out of her trunk then bring it in. I looked at her with a dumb look like are you talking to me. She said come on just go get it for me. I always help her as she is such a lovely lady however not dressed like I am now. Anyways out I go looking around to see who is looking out their windows.

I asked my mother in law what was in the box and she replied Shirley wanted some new certains for the spare room. I replied oh that is my room now. She replied well let's go see what they look like in your room Brenda. Again I looked at her as I am not used to being call Brenda.

She took the curtains out of the box and instructed me to take down the old ones and start hanging the new ones. I looked at her and said mom these are pink with flowers on them. She said that is what Shirley and  I picked out for this room. I said maybe that was before she moved me into this room. Mom said no I think this was the plan a few weeks ago when we bought the material. I looked at her and said why didn't you tell me Mom. She replied Shirley wanted it to be a surprise so what do you think?

I said Mom look at me and now at my room. She chuckled then replied yes and you will love it all very soon. I replied why very soon? Mom said well Brenda you have wanted this for  along time now haven't you? Sure it seems a bit much all at once but you know Shirley. When she makes her mind up to do something then it gets done.

She talked to me and a couple of her friends last girls night in detail of her plan. We all helped with the contract I beleive you must have seen by now. I replied yes Mom I signed it. Mom replied that is wonderful Brenda, good for you. She then got up off the chair and said so what have we got in the closet so far. I could hear her talking as she looked at everything. Then she opened my drawers with a big smile. Mom said Brenda you are so lucky, look at what Shirley and the girls bought you.

By this time I am beat red. I replied the girls are all part of this too. Mom said oh yes isn't that wonderful?

Mom wanted a cup of tea so we went into the kichen were we chatted for a bit. She said all I had to do was call her if I needed any help with putting an outfit together or makeup. I replied makeup? Mom said I wasn't supposed to tell you however you will be invited to Arlene's next week for a makeup party. I said Mom please help me I can't go through with that one. She said oh sure you can I'll come over early and help you get ready.

As I started to question her she looked at me then said remember the contract Brenda that is all I can say. At this point I know that was it I was going so better get used to the idea.

Mom and I talked a bit longer as we usually did when she came over. She asked me how it was going and if I liked my work attire. I said I was having some troubles with the heels and was not used to wearing a bra all day long. Mom said oh you will get used to that Brenda. Show me how you are walking maybe I can help you with that part. As I walked from one end of the hall to the other Mom said take smaller steps. She said quit walking like a guy and watch me. After a few minutes she said I was doing much better.

What a day.

I showed Mom this website and the avatar that Shirley e-mailed me. Mom wanted to see the contract posted on the site so I showed her. Looking through it she said yes this is the one we used to make the one you signed. I replied you have seen this before. Mom said oh yes wrote 2 contracts based on alot taken form the one here on the website. I replied there is another contract. Why is that Mom? Oh Shirley wanted to be sure everything was covered so the other one talks about her having the odd night out with another man. It also talks about me being in charge when Shirley is out of time. I smiled then said but Mom I didn't sign that contract. Mom smiled back and replied yes you did Brenda. You signed what you thought were 2 copies one for you and one for Shirley. In fact you signed 2 different contracts.

I replied Mom why would Shirley do that. Mom replied just to be sure you were going to live up to the terms of a female led realtionship. If you do everything there will not be a need to exercise the 2nd contract. Mom said if I was you just do everything Shirley asks of you and there will be no worries at all. She has no plans of having an affair again as long as you live up to your end of the deal.

Mom went on to say I have 2 weeks off so during these 2 weeks Shirley will be watching your every move. That will let her know what kind of sub you can be. I said to Mom I will be the best I can be. Mom smiled and said I know you will Brenda. She said she wanted me to succeed with this lifestyle and put forward the same effort I did with my career.

Well there you have it everyone. My mother in law is a great lady and I love her dearly.

Yoda
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 PostPosted: Wed Oct 20, 2010 5:04 pm Reply with quote  
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Hi again

Well Shirley just left with my car as it is being traded in for her new one. She says on the way out make sure you clean up your new car (her old Honda) and maybe look into getting it painted since you will be driving it for a few more years. So I went out to the garage to start washing it only to find dents and scatches along with old coffee cups in the car. I never really paid attention to her car but I am now.

I do agree with GentleDomme in that Shirley deserves to have a new car. She is so excited about having a new car. Oddly enough I think she is just as happy that I will now drive her old one. Do you think I might be on to something here?

I e-mailed her with a couple of prices to paint the old Honda. The shop where she gets the car serviced know the car so they quoted the best price. Shirley told me to leave the car outside so the shop can pick it up when they close. She said I won't need a car for a couple of weeks. I was like oh no if they come here and knock on the door to get the keys. She said don't worry I'll drop my keys off on the way home now.

Pheeew that was close.

I asked Shirley if we had the money for a new car and a paint job on the
Honda. She said excuse me Brenda. Who looks after the finances now? I replied you do, I was just wondering. She said never mind wondering what I do with my money. Shirley the said oh by the way the bank called me asking if we wanted both accounts in my name only. Yes Brenda your little savings account is now mine too. There is plenty there to paint your new car. I completely forgot about that account. It was setup years ago for my Vegas trips with the guys. Shirley knew about it as it was her idea so that I wasn'ttaking money out of the monthly budget. We both forgot it honest ladies.

Ok I have to go shave again before my wife gets here with her new car. Mom told me to make sure I look my best especially during these 2 weeks I am at home.

I never forget what Mom says or else this will be her........
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